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Developing Perceptual Motor Skills

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You have probably found that your three-year-old child loves to run and jump and hop and throw.Perceptual Motor Skills

Even though she isn’t yet ready to qualify for the Olympic Games, she wants your attention (“Watch me! Watch me!”) and your applause (“Good job!”) after completing a three-inch high jump or a six-inch long jump.

But childcare experts will tell you that these activities and requests for approval are more than “play.” These activities are an important part of developing perceptual-motor skills.

When childcare and early learning experts speak of perception and perceptual development, they are referring to the brain’s ability to interpret information received through the senses (sound, sight, taste, smell and touch).

In many activities, a child’s muscles must work in conjunction with his or her physical perception of the world around him (eye-hand coordination, for example). The ability to combine motor activity with perception is referred to as perceptual-motor skill.

Perceptual-motor skills play an important part in later school-related activities such as reading, writing and arithmetic as well as sports.

The foundations for perceptual-motor development are laid during the early childhood years.  That is why it’s smart to focus attention on your child’s development of fine- motor skills (finger dexterity, for example) and gross-motor skills (activities involving the larger muscles) during this particular period of their lives.

You, your daycare, infant child care experts, preschool or early childhood learning centers have probably noticed over the past few months that your child’s fine-motor skills are improving.  For example, she can now pick up very small objects with her fingers; but she is still somewhat clumsy at times.

When doing a simple puzzle, for example, she may see a piece that clearly belongs in a certain space.  But her fingers somehow cannot get it to fit correctly.  She may even pound the piece with her fist to try to make it fit.

Parents and child care providers can tell many stories of three-year-olds who love to stack objects on top of one another.  In fact, they can sometimes build remarkably tall towers.  In building these towers, they are improving their visual and fine-motor skills.

But since they haven’t yet learned that the largest objects must go on the bottom, the whole tower may come crashing down when they try to put a large object on top.

There is also dramatic improvement in the child’s gross-motor skills such as walking, running, jumping, and throwing.

It probably won’t surprise you that researchers and childcare professionals have found that three-year-olds have a higher activity level than at any other age in their life cycle.  They run, fall, roll, get up and then run some more. Even though we all may find it a bit exhausting at times, remember that it’s this spurt of energy that’s teaching them how to maneuver their bodies through the world at large.


Joy and Sorrows of Parents Caring for Disabled Children

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Much research has been devoted to the experience of parents who care for disabled children, but it generally is done by social workers and is filled with numbing jargon and exaggerated cheeriness. As a parent struggling to accept my situation, I’m supposed to do “benefit funding” by using a “meaning-based coping progress” and seeking positive emotions. Further, it is ” essential to set goals and work toward achieving them”, however small they may be.

Parents do identify genuine rewards – from simply enjoying their children playing on wood swing setgorilla play set or jumping in a bounce house to delighting in their achievements. But in all the studies that I have read, rewards are harder to identify as the children grow, getting bigger and heavier while still needing much of what they needed when they were small.

Ambivalence is a normal state for parents caring for disabled children. It is hard to articulate what I seem to have lost, because it is something I never had. Annie was never going to go to a law school – we knew that. Eventually we knew she was not going to drive a car. What I miss is something vague and dreamy about a daughter growing up. I have fantasies of high school girls giggling in a bedroom behind a closed door, of long phone calls. I feel grief for the past, for all that there was none of, and grief for the future, for what there may be none of yet to come. Every parent loses a child, several children, as each successful child passes into the next – the chrysalis of the infant becomes a toddler, the toddler gives way to the child, the child to the youth, the youth to adult. This is one element of being a parent, of being alive, though there is an enduring sorrow of realizing not that the child has died but the adult anticipated was never born.

I feel sad and sorry for myself or pissed off, and then I feel petty because I’m sad and sorry for myself, when I’m complaining when things could be so much worse.She is not aggressive or need incontinence supplies. She can walk and make herself a sandwich and sleep though the night. And we are lucky because as late as it was in coming, and as vague as it is in explaining things, we did eventually get a diagnosis: autism.

Unlike many people who have never been diagnosed as anything but slackers and losers and may in fact have functioning autism or mild cognitive impairment or learning disabilities but qualify exactly for nothing…

In a more expansive view, my sorrow and irritation stem almost entirely from the belief that she could be different, should be different, and that my life could and should be different. But what is wrong with this soft summer day and her slow pacing in the garden, humming to herself while I wash the dishes? My daughter was born to be a child with special needs, and in a moment, I realize how my thought condemns her.

She was born to be herself, and nothing more or less than that.

 

 

 


Are Chiropractic Services Safe For Kids

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Many people worldwide rave about the positive effects of chiropractic. It has restored muscle and nerve function, decreased and even eliminated pain, and even decreased the symptoms of some diseases. Chiropractors prod, pull, pop and stretch your body to put it back in optimal working condition, but are these services safe for children?

Absolutely.

A child of any age is safe in the capable hands of a well-trained family chiropractor. Most practitioners and chiropractors actually recommend a spinal adjustment, or chiropractic adjustment, for infants shortly following childbirth, as many childhood diseases and abnormalities stem from the stressful and traumatic experience of being pushed and pulled through the birth canal. These disk displacements, though they seem trivial, actually have major effects on the child’s development and health.

Consider this real-life example about the benefits of chiropractic services:

A 5-year-old boy had a condition which left him with no control over his bowels. His doctors were baffled because his digestive system was working perfectly and yet he frequently soiled himself at school and in public because he couldn’t feel the need to go to the bathroom. As a last effort, his parents sought the help of a chiropractor, who, during the first adjustment, realigned a seriously misplaced vertebrae just above his tailbone. Later that day, while walking around at the local mall, the little boy looked up to his mother with a look of confusion and concern. He expressed that he felt pressure in his bottom, and wasn’t sure what it was or what to do about it. Immediately, his mother took him to the bathroom, where he made his first controlled bowel movement. The family chiropractor and pediatrician concluded together that the vertebrae must have been displaced during childbirth, pinching the nearby nerves and cutting off the senses that signal the urge to defecate. Since nothing appeared to be wrong externally, the child’s parents, through no fault of their own, failed to realize that it was a neurological gap in communication.

Cases like these are not uncommon, especially with the adventurous nature of the subjects at hand. Many kids don’t report back and neck injuries to their parents because they don’t want to confess to whatever mischief led to the injury. Regular chiropractic care is highly recommended for children of all ages to help prevent pain and disorders later in life.


Make Time For Play

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From school to soccer practice to piano lessons, then home for dinner, house chores and homework before bed time. Where is time for unstructured play in a child’s day?

New studies by the American Academy of Pediatrics reveal that today’s busy life for school-age children is less than ideal when it doesn’t include some time for kicking back, playing alone or with other children, and getting relief from the demands of family and school. And the cost of tightly structured days without the relief of playtime may be a combination of depression, anxiety, perfectionism and stress by time they finish high school.

The AAP report from clinical studies published in October concludes: “Free unstructured play is healthy and, in fact, essential for helping children reach important social, emotional and cognitive skills and developmental milestones as well as helping them manage stress and become resilient.”

Play is”work” in childhood. children use their creativity while developing their imaginations, dexterity and physical, cognitive and emotional strength. Spontaneous, undirected play helps them learn how to work in groups, share, negotiate, resolve conflicts, and learn self-advocacy skills.

Many parents are afraid to slow the pace of scheduled activities fearing their children will fall behind developmentally or socially. The AAP report suggests that reduced time for physical activity may be contributing to the academic differences between girls and boys, as schools with sedentary learning styles become more difficult settings for some boys to navigate successfully.

Parents instead should make sure their children – from infancy throughout childhood – have daily free time to interact with siblings and friends in unstructured play activities. Toys that encourage imagination – like blocks and dolls – should be readily available. And remember, play offers an ideal opportunity for parents to engage fully with their children, so don’t forget to add in time for family activities that engage the whole family and help establish family traditions.


When Your Child Is Hospitalized

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Having a child in the hospital can be a confusing and emotionally taxing experience. So to help parents better know what to expect and how to cope some hospitals, like Morgan Stanley Children’s Hospital of New York Presbyteran, create Family Advisory Councils. Hospital staff, along with family members of current and former patients, work together to help families get all the information they need so they can care for their children with confidence.

Below are health tips that help families better cope when a child is hospitalized:

  • Take notes and include names and contact numbers for your child’s medical team.
  • Store the nurse’s station phone number in your wallet, and call anytime for updates on your kids health.
  • Give the nurses your contact information so you can be reached anytime.
  • Ask your medical team about the care plan for the day and write it down.
  • Always repeat medical information back to the doctor or nurse to confirm your understanding.
  • Write down questions as you think of them – even in the middle of the night.
  • Refer to your notebook when talking with doctors.
  • Ask for as many explanations of a diagnosis, “labs” or test results as needed until you understand medical information.
  • Note any changes in your kids appetite, energy level, mood, pain levels or other areas you observe, and share this information with healthcare team.
  • If you think your child is in pain, contact the nurse immediately.


Optimum Learning Times

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Each child is individual and each learns differently. According to the recent research,it appears that girls learn and use language more easily than boys.

Most young children have an inner drive to explore and find out. They have periods when they seem to be more eager and capable of learning than others. During these intense learning periods, they concentrate and stretch themselves to capacity. These intense learning periods can last hours or days, depending on the child. Once over, all becomes normal again. Although tired by his efforts, the child is satisfied by his achievement.

A 5-year-old girl decided she wanted to learn how to write. She desperately wanted to write like her brother who was 2 years older. For 6 days she practices writing letters of the alphabet in every free moment, pestering adults to explain how letters were made or to check that she was writing them correctly. By the 5th evening she was copying from her brother’s reading book. A smile of satisfaction spread across her face when her father said:” Well done. That’s beautiful writing. But that’s Rick’s reading book. “”Yes, I know,” she replied. She had achieved what she wanted, and she could rest and unwind.

Learning only takes place when a child is concentrating. A young child’s attention span is short but flexible. It depends on the mood and the quality of interaction as well as the match between the activity and the child’s interest and ability. Children lose interest quickly if something is too difficult for them or they can’t understand it.

Attentive parents know when their child is concentrating. Eye contact is one of the ways of holding the attention. Parents and educators know that once child’s eyes start wandering, his concentration is waning. How often have you tried get concentration back once it has been lost? With very young children you might as well give up and change the activity when you see the concentration has gone.


Combating Cyber-Bullying

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Bullies have emerged in cyberspace and are striking across the country, able to steal a kid’s pride instead of his lunch money.

“Cyberbullying consists of a person who uses the anonymity of the Internet to ridicule, make fun of or put down another person on an Internet conversation website, such as a chat room, a bulletin board, MySpace or Facebook,” says Tony Jurich, a professor of family studies at Kansas State University in MAnhattan, Kansas.

At the heart of any bully is actually a coward who uses his or her advantage to humiliate, demean or embarass. Instead of working on their own issues, bullies pick on others to feel better about themselves. The difference is that the cyberbully gets more coverage and a wider exposure. One catty remark can hit thousands of people in a very short period of time.

This increased exposure can make it difficult for victims of cyberbullying. To challenge someone after being put down online takes courage. Kids think “It’s already out there, and I cannot do anything about it,” and this makes them feel helpless.

Cyberbullying must be addressed at home, in school and through society as a whole, says professor Jurich. Parents must equip their children with skills to deal with bullying appropriately. Students must be smart about what they reveal. The less information that a child or adolescent puts out on the Internet, the safer they will most likely be.

But it is no guarantee. Even if kids turn off their computers, they can still be victimized by cyberbullies who use them to ridicule for something that has happened at school.

It is important that children know the steps to take if they are a victim of cyberbullying. Encourage them to talk if you feel they have been bullied online. Communicate the importance of printing a hard copy of an insulting remark. And be sure to alert other parents, teachers and even state police, if necessary.